What a mess. The last couple weeks have been a roller coaster of
Emotions. G and I did all of our blood work for STDs and drug/alcohol. Got a call from the dr on a Friday at closing that one of Gregg's test came back with something wrong. Wouldn't tell me what it was, said he needs to talk to Gregg about it. Gregg tried calling right back but they were closed.
So, we go through the weekend not having a clue as to what could be wrong. As a wife, I am
thinking it better be something showing up on his hep b or something stupid like NyQuil the night before, which would flag his drug test. Because if his std test comes back +, we have other things to worry about. :). Right?!!
Well, it takes a week for the Dr to call back. Well, he continues to tell G that his HIV test came back +. Well the stat test not the confirmation test. So, he needs to see his primary. So, G is freaked out. I start trying to call the clinic to find out what the heck happens now. I am not worried by these results , as false positives are common and he has had this test done quite a few times. No worries on my end.
Well, the clinic says everything is on hold. That they need clearance from his primary. Well, you would think that it's just a repeat hiv test, right? Who knows! The clinic starts playing who's on first. I have never seen a clinic act more vague. I didn't say anything to G at the time about this day of back and forth emails. I was completely disgusted by their behavior by the end of the day.
The next day G and I had a talk. He completely broke down. He was so scared. He works part time at a tow yard and is in and out of nasty cars. So, he was worried about picking something up from there. Watching him sob, broke my heart in a million pieces.
We had his appt at his primary for new blood work and clearance from his dr , that day. We have since received his results that he is in fact hiv neg! Woot!!!! But, at the same
Time I have decided that there is no way in hell I would ever work with this clinic. They are so lost in this whole process. With this, I have walked from my IPs. No contract was ever in place. Plus, I am picking up the fees from my end. I have paid for the back ground checks ($84), our std/drug blood work, plus follow up blood work ($400), and all my gas and co pays for all of these appts. I haven't received a penny from them. So, hopefully this helps them continue on. I do not have a cash tree in my backyard to cover all of this. But, I wouldn't expect cash from them after this mess.
Is it nap time yet???
Love to all. Xoxox
Friday, May 9, 2014
Thursday, April 24, 2014
Hurry up and...........wait
Well, it seems like we are looking at a July transfer. I have been busting my ass trying to get all my stuff done so we can get this moving. I got my psych eval done asap. When the go ahead came for the US and blood work at a local clinic, I was there the next day. I didn't want any hangups. Well, then comes word that it will be July. 2 months from my next period. Disappointing to say the least. I have never seen a clinic move so slow.
So, I guess for now, I will just cruise along. No worries. Contracts can take a couple months now. We have time. Uhg.
So, I guess for now, I will just cruise along. No worries. Contracts can take a couple months now. We have time. Uhg.
Friday, April 18, 2014
New paths
So, I have been super quiet. :) I have matched with some wonderful IPs from the east coast. This will be a GS. I have retired myself from TS.
I have passed all my required stuff...... psych screening, medical screening, back ground checks, etc....
The final blood work was done yesterday. So, now we go on to contracts. I am hoping this is painless and quick. I have already informed my lawyer to be on the lookout for it. I have not worked with their lawyer before, so I am hoping I don't have to make any bad phone calls. LOL
Will update with more info as it comes in. :)
I have passed all my required stuff...... psych screening, medical screening, back ground checks, etc....
The final blood work was done yesterday. So, now we go on to contracts. I am hoping this is painless and quick. I have already informed my lawyer to be on the lookout for it. I have not worked with their lawyer before, so I am hoping I don't have to make any bad phone calls. LOL
Will update with more info as it comes in. :)
Sunday, March 16, 2014
Craziness
What a whirlwind life can be. Many , Many things happening around here.
I have been searching for a TS for my IFs. We talked about doing GS w/ED. It was just too expensive, even with me lowering my fee for them. I have done many surrogacies. My last TS (#4), I did for a all inclusive 37k. And, was going to lower it to 35k for the GS. This will come into play. Just wait.
So, I have been searching for a TS for them. TS is just easier and cheaper, especially when you need a ED. But, you also have to take into consideration the emotional ties of the TS. This isn't just a cut and run situation.
So, anyways, I find this TS here in CA. Because, they want someone in CA. I email her, she emails me back. Very cold email, very standoffish. Ok, I just chalk it up to maybe its because I email her and not the IFs. Talk to 1 of the IFS about it. Tell him to email her and see what she says.
They chatted with her on the phone for 2 hours. They hit it off, GREAT! Its very bittersweet. I am happy for them, yet sad at the same time. I know I am not the only TS in the world, but its nice to think so some times. :)
She wants to talk to me, to get a reference for the guys. Not a problem. Going into the phone call, I honestly didn't want to like her. I wanted to say, What a bitch. But, I was pleasantly suprised. She was very nice, if not very green about TS. I had to explain to her about OPKs, cervical mucus, etc... It seems to me, you would research what the heck you are doing, before trying to match. At this point, no one had any idea of what her comp was to be. The next day , the guys got her fee sheet. 48K!!!! OMG!! What is she smoking????? She has never done this before, has no idea of how to do this, and she wants 48k????? She bumped her head. Well , the guys think no way, this is too much. I tell them, no way in hell! So, we chat about it. I make mention that if they pay 48k for her, I will be pissed.
Next day , they come to a happy medium. How much you are asking? 34k. Yes, 34k for a first timer. Now you are thinking, they bumped their heads, right? Ya. I made mention that I think they are still paying way to much, but obviously this has nothing to do with me anymore. Am I bitter about it? Hell yes. I guess I was a steal? I don't know. I hope it works out and they have the other baby they want. That is what they are striving for.
I have another set of IPs I am trying to find a TS for. I am good friends with their former TS. I was at the birth of their baby girl. They are also going through a similar situation trying to find a TS. They found someone who has delivered once as a GS, but she wants some astronomical amount, plus $370 a day in lost wages. Come on! Really? I make that at work, and in no way is a IP going to be able to pay that if something bad happens. What if you get put on bedrest at say, 30 weeks. Can you imagine how much that would be?? That would be almost another 20k on top of your base fee already.
I saw another ad on SMO for someone who has never been a surrogate before, and they are asking 65k. ?????? What has happened to this stuff???
I have decided to continue on to be a GS again. This will be my 5th surrogacy, maybe I should ask for 100k? Seems to be the norm. Maybe I will find someone so desperate to have a child, that they will just agree?? Nawwww. I am not like that. There is a time for everything. I believe in Karma. I will not ever do another comp free journey. Been there done that, still paying the bills for it. But, I am willing to work out something for the right person. I am just flabbergasted at some of these women.
Be honest!!!! With yourself at least.
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Love to all!!
I have been searching for a TS for my IFs. We talked about doing GS w/ED. It was just too expensive, even with me lowering my fee for them. I have done many surrogacies. My last TS (#4), I did for a all inclusive 37k. And, was going to lower it to 35k for the GS. This will come into play. Just wait.
So, I have been searching for a TS for them. TS is just easier and cheaper, especially when you need a ED. But, you also have to take into consideration the emotional ties of the TS. This isn't just a cut and run situation.
So, anyways, I find this TS here in CA. Because, they want someone in CA. I email her, she emails me back. Very cold email, very standoffish. Ok, I just chalk it up to maybe its because I email her and not the IFs. Talk to 1 of the IFS about it. Tell him to email her and see what she says.
They chatted with her on the phone for 2 hours. They hit it off, GREAT! Its very bittersweet. I am happy for them, yet sad at the same time. I know I am not the only TS in the world, but its nice to think so some times. :)
She wants to talk to me, to get a reference for the guys. Not a problem. Going into the phone call, I honestly didn't want to like her. I wanted to say, What a bitch. But, I was pleasantly suprised. She was very nice, if not very green about TS. I had to explain to her about OPKs, cervical mucus, etc... It seems to me, you would research what the heck you are doing, before trying to match. At this point, no one had any idea of what her comp was to be. The next day , the guys got her fee sheet. 48K!!!! OMG!! What is she smoking????? She has never done this before, has no idea of how to do this, and she wants 48k????? She bumped her head. Well , the guys think no way, this is too much. I tell them, no way in hell! So, we chat about it. I make mention that if they pay 48k for her, I will be pissed.
Next day , they come to a happy medium. How much you are asking? 34k. Yes, 34k for a first timer. Now you are thinking, they bumped their heads, right? Ya. I made mention that I think they are still paying way to much, but obviously this has nothing to do with me anymore. Am I bitter about it? Hell yes. I guess I was a steal? I don't know. I hope it works out and they have the other baby they want. That is what they are striving for.
I have another set of IPs I am trying to find a TS for. I am good friends with their former TS. I was at the birth of their baby girl. They are also going through a similar situation trying to find a TS. They found someone who has delivered once as a GS, but she wants some astronomical amount, plus $370 a day in lost wages. Come on! Really? I make that at work, and in no way is a IP going to be able to pay that if something bad happens. What if you get put on bedrest at say, 30 weeks. Can you imagine how much that would be?? That would be almost another 20k on top of your base fee already.
I saw another ad on SMO for someone who has never been a surrogate before, and they are asking 65k. ?????? What has happened to this stuff???
I have decided to continue on to be a GS again. This will be my 5th surrogacy, maybe I should ask for 100k? Seems to be the norm. Maybe I will find someone so desperate to have a child, that they will just agree?? Nawwww. I am not like that. There is a time for everything. I believe in Karma. I will not ever do another comp free journey. Been there done that, still paying the bills for it. But, I am willing to work out something for the right person. I am just flabbergasted at some of these women.
Be honest!!!! With yourself at least.
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Love to all!!
Tuesday, February 18, 2014
Time to fly
The guys have decided not to proceed with TS and me anymore. They are going to look for another TS to complete their family. I know this is the right path for them to take. But, don't think I don't get a bit jealous thinking of another TS. LOL Damn women! :) I have told them, I would try and help them find another TS. I have emailed a few girls, but haven't heard anything back yet.
Hope all is well.
Love to all!
xoxox
Hope all is well.
Love to all!
xoxox
Monday, February 10, 2014
Friday, February 7, 2014
Did I ever tell you how impatient I am?
Getting closer to test date! Today is 9 days post trigger. It should be all gone by tomorrow. Then hopefully some +++++ testing. I should clarify, some long lasting +++++ testing!
I am a reading machine right now. LOL It helps me pass the time. Puts my mind in another world. LOL Which is good. I have so many books, I could start my own local library branch. LOL And, I still have more in the garage. LOL Ya, my husband doesn't think its very funny. :)
So, help keep my mind off of testing. What are your plans this weekend? We are suppose to get a couple inches of rain here. Which is good. We are in a serious drought here. We need all we can get.
Hope everyone is doing good!!
Love to all!
XOXOX
I am a reading machine right now. LOL It helps me pass the time. Puts my mind in another world. LOL Which is good. I have so many books, I could start my own local library branch. LOL And, I still have more in the garage. LOL Ya, my husband doesn't think its very funny. :)
So, help keep my mind off of testing. What are your plans this weekend? We are suppose to get a couple inches of rain here. Which is good. We are in a serious drought here. We need all we can get.
Hope everyone is doing good!!
Love to all!
XOXOX
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