That's how it's done!

Everyone finally got the redline from my atty this morning.   Then instead of continuing going back and forth, my IM said F this and handled business.  :).  She called me and we went over the few points still hanging things up.   We have come to a agreement that works for both of us.   She is giving it to her attorney and hopefully we have this done by tomorrow.   

Good news for all of us!  

Xoxo

Really?????

Flippin, flappin, Fudge, GAHHHHHHH.   Lots of frustration going on right now.

Taking a deep breath here.  We are working on contracts.  I am using the same lawyer that we used for the sibling contracts.  It was a rush deal last time.  We were going to use the same contracts that I wrote up with Logan.  But, their atty didn't want to use those again.  So, the guys had to pay $$$ for the attys contract.  I have my reservations on why this is, but that is a whole other post.  ;)

So, if you remember last time, I said I should send her some chocolates because I was kind of rude to her.  Well, I guess I should of done that.  I talked to my atty last Saturday.  Went over the contract, I had 2 1/2 pages of changes I wanted made.  The contract was very pro-IP.  Lots of spots that a surrogate could get into trouble.   So, anyways, she asks what our time frame is.  I tell her that we start meds on Feb 13th, so we have a little time.  No, I guess not.  My IM informs me that they are leaving on the 4th for a trip.  They won't be back until after med start.  Well, the clinic won't let you start meds without a contract in place.  Which is smart.   So, I start letting my atty know that we have had a change in plans, and it needs to be done NOW.   Like yesterday.   Well, here it is Sunday, and nothing.  I have been emailing her and she keeps telling me that she is sending it , but it never shows up.  

Yesterday I got a text from the agency and the IPs wondering what was going on.  I have emailed the atty a ton, with the same results....nothing.   I emailed her yesterday, I still haven't had a reply.  Usually she will reply , of course, what she replies with never happens.  So, which is better.  LOL

I cannot get her to send the redline contract.   I am pissed.  I want this done.  I am paying out money on my end for copays, notary, faxes, etc.... and want to make sure I am covered.   But, I also want to make sure this cycle isn't pushed back.   Grrrrrr   I should of stuck with Shelley.   She was always fast.   Mistake learned.  I will not use this attorney ever again, and I will tell other surrogates not to waste their time either.   

With better news, I got to see the guys and Logan last week.   It was so awesome!!  I got kisses and hugs.   Logan is such a sweetie.  Was such a nice visit with the guys.  

Spent sunday in the ER.  I play roller derby and rolled my ankle during practice.   A big pop and I was no longer moving.   Its been hell week.   Been in bed most of the time.  Took a few days off of work.   It is a pain in the butt.  Saw my GP on Wed.  He says I tore some blood vessels and some ligaments.   I have another appt with the Ortho this coming Wed.  I would really like this to be cleared up and get back to life.

Love to all!!!

xoxoxo

2015??!!!!! Better days coming???

Well, 2014 has sucked the big one for surrogacy.   For many people I know, it has been a rough year.   But, I am hoping that 2015 brings us all some great news.

My PIFs are talking to a very nice possible TS.   And, I am talking to some very nice IPs.  
My fingers are crossed for all of us!!

Xmas went well.   Heard from all the kiddos.   CJ loved his pirate costume I got him.  His mom told me that he won't take it off.  LOL  I can't wait to see him in it.   When I saw it, I just knew I had to get it for him.  
Got Karlie a pokemon toy.   Her mom is going to kill me.  Haha.   K loves Pokemon.  Alex went through a Pokemon phase also.   So, I gave ALL of Alexs things to them.   Her mom was giving me the evil eye.  LOL
Then sent the twins and Percy a GC for Target.   They are all getting older and harder to buy for.  

Hope you all had a great Xmas.  Got to spend time with your family and friends.

Love to all!!
xoxoxo

Nothing new going on.

Life is super busy, but quiet.  We have had Bdays here the last couple of weeks.   We spent Alexs Bday at Ifly.  It is a indoor sky diving thing.  We had great fun.  Percy (my first surrobabe), and her Mom came.  It was so fun to see them and spend some time with them. 

Then just a few days later it was my Bday.  The big 4-1.  OMG!!!  I can't even believe it.
Gregg got me a new shotgun.  It is really nice.  So, we spent this past Sunday out shooting.  I started trying to skeet shoot.  That is fun!!  I want to keep doing it, and hopefully get much better.  Because as of right now, my statistics are not very good.  Haha.

On the surrogacy front.  I am still done with TS.  No more genetic babies for me.  Sad sad.  I am still looking for GS IPs.  I have heard it all.  I drove down to Dr Kumars clinic in LA last week, and was cleared by his clinic.  So, I am ready.  I just have to find someone that is suitable for me.  :D  I think I have gotten very picky about who I will work with now.   I have had babies for wonderful people and don't want to change that now.

Hopefully I update soon with matching news. 

Love to all
xoxoxo

Breeders movie.

Ok... I don't even know where to start with this movie.  I am in talks with a professor right now.  She wants to interview me about surrogacy.   I was very hesitant at first.  I said no.  I don't want to be protrayed as poor, uneducated, white trash.  So, I passed.  She is a client of my moms.  So, my mom passed one more email and said, she was done, either I would or this lady would go away.  So, I said, ok, lets talk.  She had made a comment on this Breeders movie.  The trailers came out at the end of last year.  I saw them and thought , whatever.  So, with this comment, I decided to watch it.

OMG.  I don't think that movie could be more biased if it tried.  There were 3 surrogates who told their story.  I don't doubt their story.  There is always a good side and a bad side.  But, they all missed big parts of the checklist.  No contract until after preg acheived, not having kids before  hand, etc....  There are reasons for these things.

And, these were one sided.  The other side wasn't there to say what happened, or their perception on it.  Trust me, my perception on things in different than someone elses.   One comment was a IF and his partner telling his sister, who is also his TS, that he would just get some other stupid woman to carry their child.    I don't know about you.  But, OH HELL NO!    Haha. 

I actually paid my $5.99 to watch this movie.  I think I am more angry about paying money to see it, so that I am supporting their propoganda. 

Dr Smikle was in it.  I don't think his clinic actually knew the movie would be so bashful though.  He does IVF, working many times with GS.  I saw him during my first GS pregnancy.  So, I don't see him supporting that.

There was another Dr on there.  Dr Joe Travella.  He said some wonderful things.  About being honest from the get go about the surrogacy journey.  For children, for everyone involved.  Secrets will eventually come out.  I will end up researching him more.  I liked his opinion on this.

Anyways.  I would say, don't waste your money, but its up to you. 

XOXOXOX

"Just" a rented uterus

I am having issues with this right now.  I really find it disturbing when you are treated like a walking uterus.  There is respect that needs to flow both ways for this to be successful.  And, not just baby successful, but emotionally also.

I can play devils advocate for a min also.  There are many on the other side that say, look you are getting paid so basically that is what you are.  I hear surrogates whom refer to themselves in the same way.  There is not enough money in the world to make me lie down and let someone walk all over me. 

This is a sore subject to me right now.  LOL  Can you tell???  :)
XOXOXO

Yay for June!!

I have never been so happy to see a month go away.  This past May is probably one of the worst months we have had in, I don't know how long.

May 1st is when the Dr called with G's blood work.  The + HIV test. And, it went down hill from there.  Watching my husband break down over these stupid results.  Arguing with the IVF clinic.  I then seperated from the couple I was matched with.  Which I really liked them.  It would of been a good journey with them.  But, I think there would of been some resentment on their end if they would of moved clinics and things didn't work.  It would of been my fault for refusing to work with the first clinic, so I decided it would just be better to let them find another GS. 

Then the crazy IM's started.  OMG.  The agency called me with a profile.  That was very exciting.  Her profile right off the bat said that she didn't want her surro to heat things up in plastic dishes in the microwave, didn't want her to cook in pans with scratches in the teflon.  Ok, I email the agency.  Is she going to be demanding?  I don't work that way.  I am just as stubborn and I do not do well with someone micromanaging me.  Plus, I am a hair dyer.  I dye my hair through out pregnancy.  Always have.  And, if she doesn't want me to heat my food in a plastic bowl, we may have problems.  So, we set up a time to chat.    We actually had a great conversation.  Talked for about 90 min on the phone.  Chatted through email.  She wanted to work with me.  We came to a understanding about my dye.  LOL  So, a couple days go by.  I send her a email with all my info.  Name, address, ... that kind of stuff.  Not a big deal, right?  I figure if I am going to be trusted to carry your baby, we might need to have a open policy, right?  Well, she didn't want to give me any of her info.  Huh?  I think that is the oddest thing.  This is not a one way street with trust.  I need to be able to trust you also.  And, if you can't even share your last name, or your address with me, then I think we have bigger issues.  So, this is happening, I email the clinic and tell them, I don't think this is a good match.  There are some major trust issues happening here.  The IM emails me telling me that she doesn't want to have to share her info if she doesn't want to.  Huh?  So, ya, no go. 

Crazy IM #2 comes along.  Contacts me from my ad.   I see she is also from NY.  Hmmm.  I tell her that we can chat, but if she is working with New Hope that its a no go.  We talk on the phone the next day, I tell her my story of whoa with the clinic, and she has had just about the same horrible time with them.  So, we chat about it.  She still has a surrogate.  They just had a negative cycle the week before.  Plus she doesn't like my fees.  So, I tell her she still has some work to do on her end before she even starts looking for a nother surrogate.  She needs to figure out what is happening with her current surro.  Not a problem, good luck!  The next day New Hope contacts me so I can fill out a release of information for the IM.  WHAT?????  She called them and said we were working together so she could get my info.  I was floored.  I told them that in no way were they to give any of my info to her.  OMG!  Crazy!!

Then the topper to all of this craziness is that G's dirt bike was stolen.  Just 2 weeks before he was to leave for Mexico with it.  When it first happened, I told him not to stress thats why we have insurance.  I figure I could claim it under our home policy, as its a dirt bike and not a street bike.  Insurance says No way!!  Uhg.

Was a terrible month.  I am hoping for much better news in the coming months. 

xoxoxoxo